Everything changed the moment you became a mother; Everything...

September 5, 2018

 

Everything changed the moment you became a mother; Everything.

 

The highs are so high they could scoop you up and take you bursting through the next stratosphere, the rush of love is intense like a dazzling star burst of miracle sparkles...

 

But sometimes, the lows can get you like a deep and dragging ripe tide that doesn't let you come up for air...

 

I'm six years in now, and I still see it in so many of the awesome women I’m lucky enough to have around me; my sisters, friends, clients, colleagues, even strangers on the street. 

 

I see it in myself, even now.

 

I have to admit, I found the baby bit a breeze. Don't get me wrong, it was bloody hard; Neither of them slept, I cuddled them to sleep every night for years, (I'm still doing it now), I breast fed on demand, incessantly for years, but I was, somehow, pretty chilled with it all to begin with...generally speaking...most of the time...

 

I was really bloomin’ lucky, I know. Thankfully my hypnobirthing set me off on such solid ground I flew through those early months, twice, but now, with a 3 and 6 year old, especially running my own business,  I find this mothering lark really damn challenging.

 

It's the constant juggling, the prioritising, the heightened feelings, the hormonal, emotional tug of war, the tag teaming, the monotony, the exhaustion, the endless striving for ease...when it never really gets easy...

 

It’s hard hitting, right? Really flippin’ intense, a constant balancing act of logistics, time, space and the emotions- not just your own- but those of the entire family.  

 

Feelings, emotions, memories, and past experiences come flying to the front of your mind, consume your thoughts and can sometimes smack you in the face with really highly charged and unexpected force.

 

​Sometimes we lose sight of our true selves, get a little bit (or a hell of a lot) lost…

 

Lost in a world of comparisons, self doubt, limiting beliefs and harsh judgements about ourselves, our bodies, our relationships with our partners/ mothers/ friends, and more often than not, about whether or not we’re doing this mothering lark right, good enough, perfect enough…blah blah…

 

Sound familiar?

 

So often we bury this stuff, ignoring it because it’s just too damn exhausting to think about or give our attention to. 


It becomes so much easier for us to just become the 'Mumma' the "Mummmmeeeeee", the Wife, the Partner, the Professional, the Caregiver, the Bum Wiper, the Milk Machine, the Floor Scraping, School Running, Crumb Picking, Washing Hanging, Dinner cooking, Peace Keeping Mumma.

 

I’m here to tell you this, you gorgeous human being; You are SO much more than that, Beauty, really you are. 

 

 

You are still-no matter how many mini people you have, no matter how old they are- that amazing, inspiring, compassionate, creative, exciting and all round fun loving girl that you once were, before that incredible little person, or collection of small humans immerged into your world.

 

This stuff is hard core, seriously, I know. I hear you, I feel you, I understand…

 

I’ve been there in the past, I’m here with you now, and I’ll continue on this journey for years to come I’m sure... 

 

I’ve felt those feelings; questioning, “Am I actually losing my mind, will I EVER feel the same again?”

 

I’ve heard so many friends and clients (so often the line begins to blur) tell me they’ve forgotten what ‘Normal’ or even “Easy” feels like, this shizzle is the work of absolute super heros…

 

I’ve had the panic attacks ten fold, the anxiety, the overwhelming need to be there every millisecond of every day, in perfect, unfaltering health; The strong, the responsible, the protective, the safe, nourishing, nurturing one…

 

I too, have felt the feeling of wanting to just run away from it all, especially when my crazy hormones get the better of me each month…

 

I totally get it Mumma, it’s bloody hard work, it can be the most uplifting, bright, vibrant and for-filling thing in the universe, brimming with so much heart bursting, tummy tingling love...

 

But sometimes, my love, this motherhood game can feel frickin' soul destroying.

 

I’m here for you, you are never to feel like you’re doing this alone, you’re doing a bloody awesome job, just as you are, right now…believe me, it's the absolute truth…

 

I suspect that inside you, maybe really deep within you, or perhaps just under the surface, you feel like a part of you has or is fading away, you've lost your sparkle, the colours just don't seem so bright anymore...

 

Something just has to change, really soon.

 

So I’m ready and waiting with open arms, I’m super excited to be able to work with you to enable you to reclaim your calm, reconnect with that awesome, innate wisdom, make peace with yourself, and ignite those bright lights and dazzling sparkle that IS still there, really it is, fighting at the barriers, stamping it's red shiny dancing shoes, just craving to be let loose. 

 

I’m all set to load you up with a whole lot of love, a truckload of support, proper Mumma to Mumma understanding and all round gorgeously positive vibes. All of this deeply transformation, wondrous goodness can be yours, packed up in a beautifully chilled, totally safe, inspiring and absolutely non-judgemental environment. [link to BS]

 

So, I’m super pleased that you’re here, and hoping that means you’re ready to tackle this shit head on, so that you can take a massive leap into that goddam fabulously awesome woman that you just know is there, just waiting patiently to be set free…

 

 

 

You’ve tolerated these less than joyous feelings for long enough now, they've just gotta go, totally not welcome...at all...

 

It's time to rise up and awaken the dazzling star that is the REAL you.

 

  So whether it's:

 

  • A habit that you want to blast into oblivion,

  • Anxiety, panic attacks or dark and unwelcome thoughts that you want to gently free yourself from,

  • Trauma (including less than ideal birth experiences), PTSD, or memories from your past that need to be evicted from the imprint on your soul,

  • Harsh judgements, stories or limiting beliefs that have no place in your beautiful life at all,

  • Or perhaps you need a serious dose of confidence, reassurance, self love and deep down respect so that you can tell those nagging doubts to piss off and leave you free to skip into the life you so deserve

 

If any of the above, or anything else for that matter is holding you back from living a life full of light and sparkles, joy and wonder, rainbows and unicorns, sunshine and seashells, what ever floats your boat on the amazing ocean that is your life…then let’s chat lovely, a 30 minute call, it’ll cost you nothing…

 

I can offer you awesome 1:1 HypnoMagic session, Defrazzle classes or Birth prep & Hypnobirthing, all from my beautiful Breathing Space, and all in true, unique, genuine, compassionate and authentic Mellow Mumma style...

 

If you fancy checking out how I roll, hearing some more stories about why I love this Hypno sizzle so much, join my group here, and join hundreds of other awesome women on their journey...

 

Because, Wonder Woman,  it’s all there: The dreams, the faith, the high vibes and fluid positivity, all there for you to tap into, to become, to receive…

 

We just need to unlock it, bring it out of the shadows and bring it to life. I can’t wait to watch the epic transformation happen, Beaut, lets get to it!